Engaged Couples Retreat
Saturday, January 24, 2026
St. Stephen Catholic Church
Chattanooga, TN
Thank you for registering for Picture of Love! We're honored to walk alongside you as you prepare for the beautiful sacrament of marriage.
This day-long retreat will help you and your fiancé(e) discover what it truly means to build a marriage that reflects God's love. Through the acclaimed Picture of Love curriculum, you'll explore the theology, spirituality, and practical skills that will sustain your marriage for a lifetime.
This page contains everything you need to prepare for January 24th. Please bookmark it and check back as the retreat approaches!
Date:
Saturday, January 24, 2026
Time:
9:00 AM - 6:30 PM
Location:
St. Stephen Catholic Church
7111 Lee Hwy, Chattanooga, TN 37421
[Google Maps Link]
8:30 AM - Registration & Continental Breakfast
9:00 AM - Retreat Begins
11:45-ish - Lunch, Q&A, Confession (optional)
1:00 PM - Retreat Resumes
5:00 PM - Mass
6:00 PM - Closing
6:30 PM - Departure
To get the most out of your retreat experience, please complete the following assignments before January 24th. These exercises are designed to help you reflect individually and as a couple, and will enrich our discussions throughout the day. Complete each assignment individually first - you will discuss with your fiancé(e) during the retreat.
Please bring your completed prework materials with you to the retreat.
This assessment helps you discover your primary "love language" - the way you most naturally give and receive love. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
What this will do for you: You and your fiancé(e) may show and receive love in completely different ways! Understanding each other's love language helps you express affection in ways your partner actually feels loved, rather than in ways that feel natural to you but might miss the mark. This prevents years of well-intentioned efforts that go unappreciated simply because you're speaking different "languages." You'll learn how to fill each other's emotional tank effectively.
This personality inventory explores four dimensions of your personality: how you gain energy (Introversion/Extraversion), how you take in information (Sensing/Intuition), how you make decisions (Thinking/Feeling), and how you approach the outer world (Judging/Perceiving). Your results yield a four-letter personality type (like ENFP or ISTJ).
What this will do for you: Your personality type affects everything from how you handle stress to how you make decisions to what you need after a long day. Understanding that your fiancé(e) may be wired differently helps you appreciate their needs rather than judging them as wrong or difficult.
This comprehensive worksheet guides you through creating a realistic monthly budget, discussing your individual financial histories, identifying your money values and habits, and setting shared financial goals. Topics include income, expenses, debt, savings, giving, and financial decision-making.
What this will do for you: Money is one of the leading sources of conflict in marriage, but it doesn't have to be. This exercise helps you get everything on the table before you're married - your debts, your spending habits, your fears, and your dreams.
This worksheet guides you through five critical areas of marriage: family traditions, communication patterns, financial attitudes, intimacy needs, and spiritual life. You'll reflect on how you were raised, how you handle conflict, your relationship with money, how you give and receive love, and the role of faith in your life.
What this will do for you: These are the questions many couples never ask each other until they're already married and facing conflict. By exploring these areas now, you'll uncover hidden expectations, identify potential areas of disagreement, and discover what matters most to each of you.
As you complete your prework, you'll likely have questions about finances, communication, intimacy, spirituality, and other aspects of marriage. We want to hear them! Use this form to submit your questions to the Retreat Team.
Throughout the day, each presentation will be followed by a Q&A session where our presenting couples will address questions you've submitted. This format allows us to tackle the topics that matter most to you. We'll also have an extended Q&A session during the lunch break for additional discussion.
Your questions help shape the retreat, so please don't hesitate to ask!
How do we sign up for email reminders?
Upon registration on the Diocesan website, the primary registrant will be automatically enrolled in email reminders. If your finace(e) wants email reminders as well, click this link!
Note: emails will come from one of our retreat leader's email account; please add tim@leven.coach to your safe senders list to receive the email reminders.
When should we arrive?
Please arrive by 8:45 AM for check-in. We'll have coffee, tea, and light refreshments available. The retreat officially begins at 9:00 AM.
Where do we park?
Plenty of parking is availalbe in the lot behind the church. The retreat is in the Parish Life Center. Please see the image below for more details.
What if we're running late?
We understand that traffic happens! If you're running late, please contact Carolyn Krings at ckringsdioknox.org. We'll get you settled in as quickly and quietly as possible. However, we strongly encourage arriving on time so you don't miss the opening session.
Is lunch provided?
Yes! Lunch is included in your registration. Please let us know about any dietary restrictions by contacting Carolyn at ckrings@dioknox.org.
What if we didn't complete the prework?
The prework is an important part of the retreat experience, and we strongly encourage you to complete it. However, if circumstances prevented you from finishing, please still attend! Come with an open heart and do your best to engage with the material during the day.
What if we need to cancel?
We understand that emergencies happen. Please contact Carolyn Krings at ckringsdioknox.org as soon as possible if you need to cancel.
Will we have to share personal information in front of the group?
No! While some activities involve small group or couple discussions, you'll never be pressured to share personal details with the large group. All couple reflection time is private.
What's the atmosphere like?
The retreat is warm, welcoming, and joy-filled! While we take marriage seriously, we also laugh, enjoy each other's company, and celebrate this exciting time in your lives. Come as you are - all couples are at different places in their faith journeys, and everyone is welcome.
What happens after the retreat?
After the retreat, you'll receive a follow-up email with additional resources and an opportunity to provide feedback. You'll also have the contact information for retreat leaders if you have questions as you continue your marriage preparation. Some parishes offer ongoing support groups for engaged and newly married couples - ask your priest or contact us for information.
Who are the retreat presenters?
Our presenters include experienced married couples, clergy, and marriage preparation specialists who are trained in the Picture of Love curriculum. You'll hear from multiple voices throughout the day, each bringing their own wisdom and experience.
The prework seems like a lot. Do we really need to do all of it?
Yes! We know it takes time, but this prework is foundational to your retreat experience and your marriage. These aren't busy work - they're essential conversations that many couples never have before marriage, which leads to conflict later. Think of it as a small investment that will save you years of misunderstandings!
What if our prework reveals major differences or concerns?
That's actually a good thing! The purpose of marriage preparation is to identify areas where you'll need to grow, compromise, or seek help. Discovering differences now - when you can address them thoughtfully - is far better than being surprised after the wedding. Our retreat will help you process these differences and develop strategies for navigating them. If serious concerns arise, we invite you to speak with your parish priest.
I'm not comfortable sharing our budget numbers with others. Will we have to?
Absolutely not! The budget worksheet is for you and your partner only. During the retreat, we'll discuss financial principles, values, and communication strategies, but you will never be asked to share specific income, debt, or spending numbers with anyone else (other than your fiancé(e) of course!) . Your financial information remains completely private.
What if we disagree on our Myers-Briggs or Love Languages results?
The results are tools for understanding, not boxes to fit into. If something doesn't resonate, that's okay! The goal is to spark conversation about your differences and needs. Sometimes one partner will say, "That's not quite right, but this other aspect is really me." Use these assessments as starting points for deeper discussion, not as absolute truth.
Can we get help with the prework if we're confused?
Absolutely! Please contact Carolyn Krings at ckringsdioknox.org if you have questions about any assignment. She will ensure a Retreat Leader will reach out quickly. We're here to help, and we'd rather clarify now than have you struggle with it alone.
We're an interfaith/ecumenical couple. Will this retreat work for us?
Absolutely! Picture of Love is designed for couples preparing for marriage in the Catholic Church, including interfaith and ecumenical couples. Assignment #4 includes a specific question about navigating two religious traditions, and we'll discuss this during the retreat. You're not alone - many couples are bridging different faith backgrounds, and we'll help you develop strategies for honoring both partners' spiritual lives.
What is the refund policy if we can no longer attend?
Cancelations/Refunds for the Picture of Love Retreat must be received 2 weeks prior to the retreat date. Cancellations received 2 weeks prior to the retreat date, will incur a $25.00 processing fee which will apply to all refund requests.
If you request a refund past the 2-week deadline, no refund will be given. However, your registration can be transferred to the next available Picture of Love Retreat..
When will my credit card be charged for the retreat?
The credit card used on the online registration for the Picture of Love Retreat will be charged soon after the retreat is held.
The charge to your credit card will show on your statement as, “DOK Giving and Events”. DOK is an acronym for the "Diocese of Knoxville."
We are traveling in from out of town and need hotel suggestions!
We are putting together a list of hotels near the church and will publish this information shortly. Please stay tuned!